Firstly, I don’t actually like the term ‘snowflakes’. Everyone, whether real or a character in a story, has something about them that makes them different. That’s exactly what makes them them. It’s what makes characters seem like real people.
Sure, stories often follow people who happen to be different. Whether they ‘happen’ to fall in love with a vampire who actually likes them back, have always been a wizard without knowing it, or have undiscovered special powers.
I like reading books like this. Sure, it might be statistically unrealistic that we ‘happen’ to be following this one person that can save the world. But honestly, I don’t care! If I like the story, I don’t really care if it is about a ‘snowflake’.
It’s been a while since my last confession, but I’ve finally thought of one again. After my post last week, I realized that I’m talking all about getting rid of books that you no longer need. Especially those you don’t like.
Well, there are some books still on my shelves, that I know I should probably say goodbye to, but haven’t had the guts to do yet. These are the books that have a personal dedication in them, or a signature.
People have taken so much care to pick out these books for me and I feel heartless tossing them out (or donating/selling them). This goes against just about everything I’ve written last week, but there it is: the books I should be donating, but haven’t been able to (yet).
Any book you have trouble donating, even though you know you should?
A while back, I wrote a blog post where I explained that it is really hard for me to DNF (Did Not Finish) books. However, more recently I’ve changed a bit around in my life that has also affected my ability to DNF books.
As you’ve seen, I’ve gotten rid of a lot of things (and a lot of books) due to Marie Kondo’s The Life Changing Magic of Tidying. Our home has become less cluttered and all the things I didn’t like anyway have left the premises. This has also opened my eyes more and more to doing things I don’t like.
Of course, there are certain things you have to do, mostly because in the end they are beneficial. Finish school, go to work, go to the bathroom, getting dressed and more. However, finishing books that are boring, uninteresting, sexist or horribly written are definitely not part of this list.
Sure, I already knew this before, but somehow my mind would still see it as a failure if I didn’t finish the book. As a perfectionist, that was the hardest part. Failing to finish a book.
Now however, I see getting rid of a book I just can’t get through as a victory. A victory over the restrictions I have, for so long, placed on myself. It still feels scary, and a little part of my brain still isn’t convinced that it isn’t really failure taking over after all. However, practice makes perfect. Or, from the field of behavioral psychology: just keep doing it until the anxiety about it subsides and it’ll become as normal as waking up in the morning.
So, for all those out there I can tell you from personal experience: it is possible. And it’s freeing to be able to say to a book: “You suck, fuck off! Stop wasting my time.”
Yep, I’m not the biggest fan of bookish goodies. Sure, there are things that I like, but mostly something related to books won’t really make me happy. I’d rather just have a piece of chocolate, or a book of course.
Somehow I’ve a bit of a thing against anything that I can’t use. This means that certain things, like pillows and tote bags, I’m a big fan of. However, funkos… not so much. I love the way they look, don’t get me wrong, I just feel their useless (which I suppose technically they are). They’d just be standing there, taking up space, gathering dust… which means it’s something extra I’d have to clean – I don’t like cleaning.
I hardly ever wear jewelry, so bookish jewelry? Not for me. Different cell phone cases? Nope, I only use one anyway. I’d forget the change them and the other ones would end up in the back of a drawer.
It pretty much comes to this: if I use it without it being bookish, I’ll also use it when it’s book-related. However, if I don’t use it anyone, just making it bookish, isn’t going to make me like it.
Throughout the year, as most of you will know, there are numerous reading challenges that one can compete in. Some are fairly simple, only prescribing the number of books as a goal. Others, will try to give specific prompts to use when picking out a book (e.g. a book with a number in the title, a book with a blue cover). However, what all of them have in common, and what I hate about them, is that they ‘force’ you to read.
The whole point of a challenge is of course completing it. Though I’m a huge fan of deadlines (I almost always finished my assignments minutes before them), I really don’t like to feel pressured into something. Whether that be drinking alcohol (seriously, cut the crap, I don’t like that shit!), or reading certain books.
I pick out the books I read based on what I feel like reading, so if I have no good books with blue on the cover, then it’s really just not going to happen. Reading a certain number of books seems a bit pointless too, since I already set a goal for the entire year; no need to make things worse by forcing myself through 5 books in 7 days. This means the only challenge I participate in, is the Goodreads challenge, by setting a goal for a certain number of books to read.
When it comes to these challenges, I’m all rebel teen inside: forcing me to do something is the best way to make sure it’s not going to happen.
What’s your opinion about challenges? Do they actually help you read more (I know it works for some people)? Or do you dislike them, like I do?
That’s the sad, sad truth; I don’t have the money for it. Weirdly enough, I don’t think I’ll ever have the money to buy all the new releases right when they come out. Maybe it’s my stingy Dutch upbringing (is that seriously still what foreigners believe btw?), but I just don’t think it’s worth it to buy them as soon as they come out. Is that just me?
There are so many books that I want to read, and so many that I’ve never even heard of that are probably amazing. A whole bunch of those can be gotten from second hand stores (if you want to own a copy), a library or friends. Sure, I can (in the future) spend all of my hard earned money on new shiny books. But there’s no guarantee that they’ll make me happier than all those well-loved books waiting in the second hand stores. Thus, I like to save my money and be very picky about the books I pre-order. After all, the next big thing in bookland is always right around the corner.
What do you think? Do you want all (or most) of the new releases as soon as they come out, and do you then also buy them all? Or do you find (just like me) that sometimes money is better spend on things that are not books? Let me know in the comments below!
This is just one of those things that I, personally, cannot deal with. I hate leaving things unfinished, no matter what it is.
I can leave them alone for a long time, for years even, but I will eventually finish whatever it is I am working on. Whether it’s a project or a book I’m reading. At some point I will make sure it’s done.
Books I really don’t like, I will therefore still finish reading. Not just because I cannot stand to see them unfinished, but also because that’s the only fair way to give a review; if you’ve not finished it, how are you supposed to give a fair and honest review?
How do you feel about DNFing a book? Yes, no, maybe? Let me know in the comments!
(DNF, for those who didn’t know, means: did not finish).
P.S. I’ve recently DNFed my first book. It’s been two years, I think I really should give up at some point… It does feel very strange and wrong however.